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Sadness is not a weakness

Bereavement, grief, and loss of a loved one, a pet you dearly loved, or the loss of something else, is a price you have to pay for loving. It's a measure of how much the missing part of your life meant.

Grief and bereavement is a totally natural set of emotions that have a course to run, it's a time of total chaos, a time of feeling completely overwhelmed, there is little or no consolation to offer, just an understanding of the path your grief will take. The feeling of pain, confusion, anger, guilt, hopelessness, and despair will leave you feeling numb, you'll feel a yearning for the lost one both physically and emotionally.

The horizon is at its bleakest, when you feel you are coming to terms with your loss you'll find that you're plummeting back down into the darkness. It's important that you know life will carry on, you will pass through grief but your life will have changed. You will learn to live with grief rather than trying to move past it and hope it goes away.

Bereavement is a time of great loneliness, you have lost a love one and it's possible that you may find that your friends are keeping away and avoiding you. Free release of your emotions is healthy and natural, supressing them is not. At some point, the emotions of snapping back to reality will hit you. 

Silhouette of Person Sitting Beside Body of Water, sad, depressed, grieving.

One question is when do we start grieving? At the time you learn of the death or loss, at the funeral, or weeks after? The truth is grief can manifest at any time, there is no typical time for grief to set in, the only sure thing is that it will. You must allow yourself time and space to grieve and be kind to yourself.

Reminders of loss can come at any moment and may be unexpected. When you feel you're coping with grief, an old photograph, a letter, or bumping into a mutual acquaintance who was unaware of the loss, could be the trigger back into the stages of grief.

Grief can affect you physically as well as emotionally, you may be experiencing symptoms and not realising it's a part of the grieving process such as:

  • Tightness of the chest

  • Loss of appetite

  • Panic attacks

  • Dry mouth

  • Sighing a lot

  • Feeling bloated

  • Suffering from heartburn/indigestion

  • Irritability

  • and more.

My goal is to help you understand the stages of grief and bereavement and help you let go of someone or something that you don't want to let go of. In order for your life to continue, you must let go. It's hard to say goodbye when it's the last thing you want to do.

I will listen to you with empathy and understanding and help you out of the other side to continue with your life, I will support you through your sadness.